Boundaries & Balance
Set boundaries without pushback or guilt.
Boundaries & Balance is a group coaching program for those who are emotionally exhausted from saying yes to everything and want to set boundaries without pushback or guilt.
Starts February 22nd
“It’s possible to say no.”
“Just because somebody asked or wants something or might need something from you, it’s not an automatic yes. I had a hard time coming to that conclusion. Boundaries & Balance helped me figure out how to tell somebody no, let them down gently and still be friendly afterwards, it’s not an automatic cut ties with somebody.” - Cat
Anytime anyone asks if you can help with something…
the word YES is already coming out of your mouth before your brain even registers what you just agreed to.
You check your calendar and realize you've somehow agreed to do seventeen things this weekend and exactly ZERO of them are things you actually want to do.
And here's the thing that makes it all worse: You're not even sure how you got here.
You looooooove helping people, especially the humans you care about!
But somewhere along the way, saying yes to everyone turned into being available for everyone else's needs while yours don't even make it on the to-do list.
And now every time your phone buzzes you think, "Crap, what do they need now?" before you’ve even looked to see who it is.
You want to show up and be there for the humans you care about, but you’ve reached a breaking point and the way you’re doing things has gotta change.
Know this feeling?
You're doing alllllllll this emotional labor—constantly guessing everyone's feelings, running around, doing all the things for everyone you care about—and it's EXHAUSTING
You keep waiting for people to reciprocate the care you give them, but it never comes...
You're anticipating everyone else's needs (the ones you just SENSE, not the ones they've actually told you about) while completely ignoring your own
You're doing everything for everyone else, while forgetting yourself in the process.
And you likely don’t even know that it’s a boundary issue because being helpful makes you feel happy.
You tell yourself "it's fine, I can handle it" even though you're running on fumes, becoming resentful and your to-do list has become a monster.
You feel guilty even THINKING about doing something for yourself because there are dishes in the sink and someone might need you.
And did we mention that you’re beyond exhausted?
What Saying Yes to Everyone is Actually Costing You
Yeah, you're tired, but the real cost is...
The mental hamster wheel that won't stop spinning with "I should've, I would've, I could've"
The resentment building up when you're doing everything for everyone and nobody even notices
Relationships that feel one-sided because you're giving 100% and getting... well, not that
The version of yourself you can barely remember—the one who had creative hobbies and didn't automatically shape-shift into whatever you thought others needed
There’s no easy way to say this, there’s one belief that’s keeping you stuck in the never ending “yes” cycle:
You think saying no is selfish.
You're waiting for people to reciprocate the care you give them (spoiler alert: they won't, because they're not mind readers).
You believe that if you just keep helping, eventually they'll get it and mirror back all of the love, care, and sacrifice that you give to them.
But that's not how it works.
And deep down? You already know that.
And You Know How I Know This…
Well, I can tell you I wasn't always The Boundaries Coach.
For a loooooong time, I had no idea how much I needed boundaries.
I didn’t even know what they were! They might feel a little elusive to you too.
I thought I was good in my relationships, except I was frustrated, resentful, and re-thinking every conversation for 3-weeks after the fact (which are all strong indicators that you need better boundaries).
When you’ve got clear boundaries you’re happy and confident because you know what you want, you communicate clearly, and everyone around you knows how to respect your boundaries (and respect you).
That might feel like a pipe dream or a fairy tale, and yet it can be your reality.
Isn’t it time to release the thought pattern that you have to say yes to everything?
“It took me so long to figure out that I was doing no one any favors by always being willing to say yes.”
Here's the real reason I needed boundaries:
I thought being frustrated, angry, and exhausted all the time was just... normal. Because everyone I talked to felt the same way.
But those feelings were signs that what I was doing wasn’t working.
I felt like I had to be nice allllll the time.
I was miserable, but I just kept pushing through because that’s what I was supposed to do.
Do you ever feel that way too?
Or do you ever think that it's rude to say no (especially when someone asks for your help)?
And you don't want to become some awful selfish person.
If so, you're in the right place.
Here's what's possible when you build your boundaries through Boundaries & Balance:
Know how to respond to pushback like it's no big deal
Stop feeling guilty every time you think about saying no
Stop managing everyone else's emotions like it's your full-time job
Spend more time doing things that you enjoy, that make you happy. (Instead of feeling stuck doing all the things you should be doing.)
Have relationships that are actually reciprocal—where people show up for you as much as you show up for them
Set boundaries like a badass without spending three days second-guessing yourself
Stop chameleoning yourself into who you think others want you to be
See and value your own needs
Delegate and say no to things.
That's it. That's what this is about.
"I used to approach every relationship thinking, I will be who I think you want me to be, and I would lose myself. With your coaching I feel supported and inspired. I feel clearer on what my boundaries are and I feel excited to try these statements. I was thinking I have to succeed and be perfect, but I can just try it."
— Dana
Meet your coach
Hey, I'm Kerstin, The Boundaries Coach.
And I wasn't always a badass at boundaries.
For 10 years I worked as an accountant, came home exhausted every day, and word-vomited all my frustrations onto my husband because I'd spent the entire day being "calm" at work.
The only thing keeping me sane was one hour of yoga each week. And you know why?
Because it was the ONLY hour I dedicated to myself.
The rest of the time I was chameleoning into every situation, trying to do everything the "right" way, adapting to what everyone else needed.
My boundaries were sh*t. I was people-pleasing 24/7. And I had zero clue.
Now? I help humans like you learn how to set boundaries without guilt, second-guessing, or sacrificing the relationships you care about.
I've worked with hundreds of clients over the past 5 years through my coaching programs, weekly journaling group (CommuniTea), and retreats. I'm also a certified yoga instructor and use journaling as the foundation for all my work.
My approach is simple: genuine encouragement, zero-judgement, neurodivergent-friendly guidance that actually works in real life—not just in theory.
And I promise: you don't need to be perfect at boundaries. You just need to start.
Introducing: Boundaries & Balance
This is a group coaching program designed specifically for humans who are exhausted from constantly saying yes.
Not theory. Not a workbook you'll never finish. NOT another self-led course.
Real, practical live support to help you identify where your boundaries are being ignored, get clear on what YOU need, learn how to communicate those boundaries, and have the tools to easily process (and let go of) the guilt and second-guessing that comes up.
How it works
6-Week Boundary Boot Camp (February - March)
We meet each week for 90 minutes on Zoom.
Week 1: Handling Guilt, Fear & Second-Guessing
Week 2: Identifying Your Actual Needs (spoiler alert: they're valid!)
Week 3: Understanding Your Boundary Patterns (and why they exist)
Week 4: Boundaries in Specific Relationships (family, work, friendships)
Week 5: Communication Skills That Don't Feel Fake or Mean
Week 6: Creating Your Sustainable Boundary Practice
Between sessions, you'll have homework to keep the learning going. (Because knowing about boundaries and actually USING them are two different things.)
Monthly Group Coaching (April - November)
We meet once a month on Zoom for continued support, troubleshooting, and celebrating wins.
Boundaries are a practice. They're ongoing. And having a community of people who GET IT and a coach that holds your hand every step of the way?
That changes everything.
Kerstin is so skilled at coaching, facilitating, and imparting wisdom
“I just wanted to reiterate how skilled you are at coaching, facilitating, imparting wisdom, and helping others. Truly, special gifts that few have. Today had some heavy themes, and you guided us through with grace!”
— Cat
What’s included in Boundaries & Balance?
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Weekly 90-minute live group coaching calls on Zoom (February - March)
Value = $1,200
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We meet monthly on Zoom for 90 minutes for ongoing support (April - November)
Value = $1,500
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Access to all recordings (perfect if you miss a session or want to revisit that week’s topic)
Value = $500
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Mailed directly to you and filled with handpicked items from your coach, Kerstin, to help you thrive on your boundary journey.
($100 value)
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Two × 1 hour private coaching calls (Value: $400) - Individual personalized support for your boundary journey
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10-Month Access to CommuniTea - My weekly journaling group
($990 value)
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10 Journaling Prompts - to help you process your thoughts, feelings, and emotions between calls
($50 value)
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5 Yoga Videos - Because your body holds boundaries too
($250 value)
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5 Mindful Meditation Videos
($100 value)
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Thoughtful Journaling E-Book
($30 value)
I’m no longer feeling guilty about other people’s feelings
"The difference in myself from where I was to where I am now, I am able to actually tell people that's too much for me or that's not OK. For me that's one of the places where it's the hardest to tell people, 'you know what, you can be upset, but you don't get to speak to me that way. I'm not willing to be spoken to that way. I'm going to leave.' Being OK with that and not feeling so guilty that I might have hurt someone's feelings."
— Elena
This is a safe space to practice being vulnerable
“Kerstin’s programs have provided me with a safe space to practice being vulnerable. Learning how to open up has been hard, but I feel like this space was created for people like me. People who need a gentle nudge in the right direction. There's so much more that I'm willing to say in this safe space. Kerstin has no judgment, whatever flies out of my mouth is OK. I’m so grateful to Kerstin and this space!”
- Adrienne
I’ve tackled complicated issues within my relationships
“Kerstin is wonderful at listening then providing helpful feedback. I’ve worked with Kerstin multiple times. Each time I’ve noticed improvements in my life directly connected to what we worked on together. I’ve started a business, tackled complicated issues within my intimate relationships. I’ve learned to set better boundaries and acknowledge self awareness with Kerstin! I look forward to working with Kerstin again! Thank you!”
- Kathy
I feel clearer on what my boundaries are
“During our first journaling prompt I could already feel the positive effect of the brain dump, of getting it all out on paper. This is why this is so good for me. Putting structure into it is a whole other level. With your coaching I feel supported and inspired. I feel clearer on what my boundaries are and I feel excited to try these statements.”
-Dana
Now I know what you might be thinking…
"It'll never work for me"
That’s a valid concern. Your brain resists change at all costs because it thinks change is potentially deadly. You know, because back when we all lived in caves, moving one cave over meant sharing it with a saber toothed tiger and that would not end well for you. BUT you’re not living in a cave and you're not doing this alone. You have weekly support, accountability, and someone (me!) who's been exactly where you are. This isn't about willpower. It's about having the right support system.
"I don't have time"
I hear this concern a lot from clients and I always ask, How much time are you currently spending doing things you don't want to do? Managing other people's emotions? Stewing in resentment? I’m willing to bet it’s most of your time. 90 minutes a week for six weeks and then 90 minutes once a month is NOTHING compared to the hours you're losing to this cycle.
"What if I fail?"
Ok, stay with me. You will fail. Yep, you read that right. The truth is boundary setting is a practice. Some days you'll nail it. Some days you won't. The difference is you'll have the tools and support to work through it. And that’s exactly why we’ve got our monthly calls after the six-week boundary boot camp. You need time to practice, to fail, and to get it right.
"This is just the way it is"
Ohhhhh, big hard nope on that one. Caring about people and having healthy boundaries are not mutually exclusive. You can be kind AND have limits. You can be helpful AND say no. The exhaustion and resentment? That's what happens when you don't have boundaries. And it doesn't have to be this way.
Investment
Only 8 spots available!
$3,333
10 months of support, community, and transformation
Choose Your Payment Plan:
3 monthly payments of $1,111
6 monthly payments of
$555
10 monthly payments of $333
But what happens if you don’t take action right now?
You’ll stay stuck in the same patterns you’re in now.
Swearing at your phone every time you get a text.
Feeling like you don’t have time for the things you’ve been wanting to do (especially the creative projects you’ve been day-dreaming about).
Resenting the humans you care about because they’re just not showing up for you the way you want them too.
You can stay there, I’m not forcing you take action or make a change.
Change is scary, our brains are hard-wired to resist it.
That’s why the only way to make lasting change is to take a big step.
So stop waiting for someone else to tell you, “you should do this for yourself.”
Instead join Boundaries & Balance and give yourself:
Permission to say no.
Permission to have needs.
Permission to stop being everyone's emotional dumping ground.
You are allowed to…
Want things for yourself.
Say yes to yourself.
Say no—even when it upsets people.
Boundaries & Balance starts February 22, 2026.
There are only 8 spots.
If you're reading this thinking "this is exactly what I need"—trust that feeling.
Don't be the human who keeps finding reasons why you can't have the things you want.
Say yes to yourself today.
Frequently Asked Questions
Questions? Email Kerstin - I'd loooooove to hear from you!
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If you can say yes to 3 three or more things on this list, then Boundaries & Balance is for you:
You’re emotionally exhausted all the time
You feel pulled in a million directions because you want to show up and help the humans that matter to you.
You give and give and give, because it feels so good, until you've got nothing left in the tank for you.
You wear your exhaustion like a badge of honor, it proves that you can do all the things.
You magically thought there would be time for you, but you can't seem to make it happen.
You wish you could effortlessly talk to your partner about the hard stuff.
You feel like all you do is hustle from task to task and spin your wheels when you don't know what to focus on next.
You spend 69% of your time taking care of your home, partner, kids., work, and fur babies
You spend 30.5% of your time worrying about your home, partner, kids., work, and fur babies
That leaves 0.5% of your time for you
You feel depleted, frustrated, and like no one is taking care of you (while you're taking care of everyone and everything and you're done feeling like a worn out doormat!)
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Nope, this is a live-online program with group coaching. There will be homework assignments that you will do at your own pace between sessions.
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Two things, first Kerstin genuinely creates a safe space, that welcomes all lived experiences into a loving container.
Second, Kerstin’s favorite tool is journaling. You’ll learn her proven journaling method (Ditch Your Doubts) that helps you journal in a short amount of time, work through your gnarliest thoughts, and feel good about the process.
By using journaling, Kerstin helps everyone work through their individual challenges while supporting the group as a whole.
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Sundays 10:30am-12pm PST
It automatically converts to your timezone (no mental math required).
6-Weekly Bootcamp Sessions:
2/22/26 to 3/29/267-Monthly Sessions:
4/19/26
5/17/26
6/14/26
7/12/26
8/23/26
10/18/26
11/22/26 -
I get it. That's exactly why I structured it this way.
The first 6 weeks give you the foundation—the tools, the frameworks, the confidence to start setting boundaries.
Then the monthly sessions keep you supported as real life happens. Because here's the truth: you'll set a boundary in Week 3, feel great about it, and then two weeks later someone will push back and you'll think "oh crap, did I do this wrong?"
That's when you need support. That's when you need community. That's when you need someone to say "No, you didn't mess up—here's what to do next."
Ten months gives you time to actually practice, stumble, learn, and become a boundary badass.
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All of the calls will be recorded, so if you can’t make them, you will still get all of the content.