Your exhaustion isn’t the problem-

your boundaries are.

Transform your life with The Boundaries Coach.

Your brilliant brain is always racing…

You're drowning in unfinished to-do lists, saying "yes" when you desperately need to say "no," and wondering why everyone else seems to have this "adulting" thing figured out.

The cycle is exhausting:

  • Overwhelm leads to procrastination

  • Procrastination triggers perfectionism

  • Perfectionism creates more overwhelm

  • Meanwhile, your own needs keep getting pushed aside

Does that sound like you?

You’re not broken!

The procrastination-perfectionism loop keeps you stuck in doubt, fear, and a never ending to do list. That makes adulting feel hard, but it doesn’t have to…

You just need boundaries that work WITH you.

Hi, I’m Kerstin,

The Boundaries Coach, Founder & CEO of Love and Live Wellness.

I help women, queer folks, and recovering people-pleasers carve out me-time, set boundaries, and reclaim their authentic selves.

As The Boundaries Coach, I help you define who you are, what it is that you want, and create the life that you need. 

When you're crystal clear on who you are, everything becomes easier. Decisions feel effortless. It's easy to prioritize and organize your life. You feel happier. Communication becomes simpler and you don’t fear the tough conversations.

What you’ll gain when you work with Kerstin:

  • A customized boundaries framework designed specifically for you

  • Practical strategies to stop the people-pleasing and reclaim your time

  • A supportive community that understands your unique challenges

  • Clear decision-making tools that cut through the overwhelm

  • Permission to prioritize yourself (your needs are important too!)

  • Accountability that works with your brain, not against it

My approach blends compassionate understanding with practical action. As someone who's navigated these same challenges, I won't just tell you what to do—I'll show you how to make it work for YOUR unique brain and life.

At 32 I had a mid-life crisis. I was living a life based on "shoulds" - given to me by other people instead listening to my own inner brilliance. A lack of boundaries and accountability left me feeling stuck - until I hired a coach who helped me find the bright-sparkly-weird-quirky nerd that I am and bring her to the surface. Now, as The Boundaries Coach, I help women and non-binary folks reclaim their sparkly, authentic selves.

It's time to rekindle your inner spark and let yourself shine as the real you. 

CommuniTea

Bond, decompress, and laugh with your favorite group of weirdos in CommuniTea, the weekly journaling group. Experience a judgement-free safe space so you can explore your thoughts, embrace your uniqueness, and connect with like-minded people. Membership includes journaling prompts, guided conversation (no popcorn style here!), and a resource library packed with meditation and yoga videos.

Boundaries and Balance

In this deep dive 10-month course, Boundaries and Balance, teaches you how to know where you need a boundary, how to set it, and the accountability to put it in place. You'll feel nurtured in a small group environment while you learn how to say yes to yourself, say no to others through healthy boundaries, and reclaim yourself and your time.

Private Coaching

This is for you if you crave accountability for lasting change. In private coaching I hold your hand the whole way as we define who you are, decide what you want, create your personalize plan, and take each step together so you can activate your bright sparkly self.

Kind Words from Clients:

  • “I started working with Kerstin because I wanted some more clarity on what direction to take next. She has such a gentle and empathetic energy and I always feel held and supported in our sessions together. Kerstin has helped me commit to my truth, see my own genius and help me plan to bring my passion into life. I am truly grateful for our time together, it's been a pleasure to work with such a kind-hearted, soul led human.

    Thank you, Kerstin ♥”

    - Samantha G

  • "I appreciate Kerstin's ability to listen and let me express myself. She has an amazing ability of hearing people out without judgment. Instead she provides support, guidance, reassurance, validation and helps me work through my emotions, feel safe, and secure. This allows me to hear my own truth and find my own answers. She is amazing at clarifying and verbalizing the things I would not be able to describe - which brings relief, acceptance, and healing. I love how she makes sense out of chaos and uses simplicity to tackle big issues.

    I highly recommend anyone to work with Kerstin!"

    – Irina K

  • “I could tell right away that Kerstin has a special gift for helping people… I got to discover more about who I was, who I am, and who I want to be. Coaching with Kerstin always felt like talking to a best friend, but without the baggage of judgment or shame when disclosing deep personal thoughts. Kerstin’s gentle guidance, support and encouragement makes you think and dig deep; and she is the kindest, neutral third-party that can offer advice and expertise. I owe my happiness, healthiness, and mental radiance to Kerstin’s courses and friendship. I cannot recommend her enough. Whether you know exactly what it is that you seek, or don’t even realize that you’re stuck and are seeking something, Kerstin will help you get there.”

    - Cat 

  • “I have worked with Kerstin for years through her coaching programs, journaling system and CommuniTea, which is a pillar in my life…she has provided the trellis, the structure I needed to grow my whole self. She has supported me as I get to the point in my life where I look forward and think, I am capable and it's an amazing feeling. Growing up is hard, it means recognizing your effect on the world and the world effect on you. Being able to do it requires support. I have made mistakes, instead of running from them, I have the space to see these and work through them. “

    - Elena

  • “Everyone and their Grandma’s cat seems to be a Life Coach of some sort these days, but every once in a while someone comes along who can 𝗚𝗘𝗡𝗨𝗜𝗡𝗘𝗟𝗬 help people see their own greatness and take steps to embrace it and live a fulfilling life…

    Kerstin’s magic is in how she connects with people personally, and she has a real gift for clarity.

    Kerstin Phillips is warm and personable, insightful and intuitive, masterful at offering just the right balance of guidance and space, and the clarity and encouragement she brings to the table cannot be emphasized enough!!”

    - Elizabeth M.

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