I want something different for next year. I’m not one for setting resolutions, I gave up on them years ago, I don’t really see the point of trying to make a change that won’t stick.

Being vulnerable isn’t easy. It takes practice, discipline, and courage. 

​Being vulnerable can feel icky, like there’s a spotlight on you, and it can feel glorious when someone gets you for the first time in your life (and I mean gets you gets you). 

When shoulds rule your life it’s hard to tell what you really want. You feel conflicted, uncertain, and second guess every decision you make. It’s no fun to be stuck in the shoulds. Instead get crystal clear on who you are and what you want, here’s how.

Change feels hard because your brain resists change. Teeny tiny joys are the key to unlocking what’s blocking you and forming new habits that last.

We get stuck in our negative mind spaces. The “shoulds” take over, the “can’ts” have you backing into a corner, and the “I just want to hide under my fuzziest blanket all day” have you distracted instead of writing that email that you have to send out today. The good news is that you don’t have to stay stuck in those negative places. Here’s how.

Consistency is easier than you think. It’s not motivation or lack of desire that gets in the way. It’s your habits, the things you do on autopilot that make or break your consistency. Here’s the trick that kept me consistent.

 In order to banish your shoulds you have to unpack your assumptions first.

When you say “I should” or “I'm supposed to” it's because you're feeling guilt, a sense of obligation, or potential embarrassment.

Shoulds come from external sources. When you say, “I should” that's a sign that you're pushing away what you really want. It’s time to banish your shoulds.

Oof, we lie to ourselves all the freakin time and don’t even realize it! Thanks to your inner critic. 

I have a habit of picking fights with my husband when I’m mad at myself for not getting a task done. 

I was cut off from my yoga community, my safe space of support, and I didn’t know how to find that on my own. I felt so lost.

When a million thoughts pop up each time you want to try something new, about how difficult it’s going to be, allllllll the things that can go wrong, and how you’re just not ready, that’s your reptilian brain at work.

Perfectionism is the bane of my existence and I’m stuck in the procrastination-perfectionism loop!

What does it mean to be consistent? Is it doing the same thing every day? Is it showing up for the things you say you’re going to do? More importantly the part that has the strongest impact on you is how you respond to yourself when you’re inconsistent.

Grief takes many forms, it's not just about death. How you process your big feelings impacts how quickly you move through them.

Do you believe that you're capable? Oftentimes it's easier to see the brilliance in others than it is to see it within ourselves. Let’s explore why that is or isn’t true.

Missing is a good thing. If everything went perfectly all the time, life would be sooooooo boring! 

You might not be aware that you have Strong Woman Syndrome, it’s a side effect of taking the blue pill (that’s not your fault). We are swimming in a culture that condones the beliefs that women don’t matter, don’t deserve time for yourself, and perfectionism is vital to your survival.

There’s a lot working against you in setting boundaries AND hope is not lost! Before we can set boundaries, we first have to undo the conditioning, societal teachings, and limiting beliefs.